Create the Relationships You've Always Wanted

Is your spouse, your teenager or your bosslife. Once you understand your pattern, you can
pushing your buttons? It doesn't have to be thatunlock your hidden potential to be your best self.
way. You can become the master of your loveYou can break free from self-sabotaging habits
relationships, work relationships and familyyou may not even be aware of. You can
relationships. You can bring out the best in others"rewrite" your life script and truly make the most
as well as in yourself, and enjoy healthyof what the universe has given you.
relationships. All you have to do is to get to knowHow do you respond to life? At your best, are
your archetypes and understand theirs.you constructive, outgoing and motivated? Are
Did you know that how you think, feel and relateyou reserved, intuitive and caring? Do you mother
to others is programmed by patterns youeveryone? When things don't go your way, do
automatically picked up as a baby? Theseyou get angry or depressed? Do you get anxious
patterns consciously, subconsciously andin groups for no apparent reason? Is it hard for
unconsciously either bless or block every area ofyou to fit in?
life.Recognizing your archetypes helps you to
The best way to understand why you do whatunderstand how you and others process and
you do in relationships, and why other people doshare the experience of life. Then, you can work
what they do is to get to know your automaticto transcend your limitations by striving to access
coping patterns. These patterns are bestand emphasize loving energies in any given
described through four archetypes that play out insituation. Doing so will make you more competent.
loving and unloving ways.The emphasis of loving energies fosters the
The first archetype to consider is the Lovingemotional intelligence you need to be steadfast,
Father. This is the energy that seals us withkind, and authentic. It will bring out the best in
protection, direction, and self-discipline. The secondyourself and in others so you can enjoy healthy
archetype is the Loved Boychild. It represents ourrelationships.
courageous and heroic side, as well as ourOur archetypes are like a toolbox. We can draw
"can-do" spirit. The third archetype is the Lovingupon the best archetype for every situation and
Mother. That energy provides us with innerperson we come in contact with. This dramatically
nurturing, guidance and unconditional love. Thetransforms how we come across to others and
fourth archetype is the Loved Girlchild. She isalso influences how they relate back to us.
where we expand our caring, intuitive, mystical,Generally, people who function from a strong
and most artistic nature.Father archetype pursue the law. They tend to
All of the problems in our lives originate from anhave strong boundaries and seek to download a
imbalance, a clogging, or a distortion of theseblueprint for every situation. When their Father
archetypes and their corresponding energies. Ourenergy goes out of balance and becomes
Loving Father energy is often usurped by Unlovingunloving, they can become harsh and critical
Father, our inner tyrant, critic and controller. Whentoward themselves and others.
Loving Mother isn't strong, we fall back onPeople who express a strong Mother archetype
Unloving Mother and abandon or spoil ourselveslive to nurture life. They love to guide and teach
and others. The energy of the Loved Boychild canothers, and provide stability in any given situation.
be overrun by Unloved Boychild, which manifestsWhen they are threatened, they respond by
as anger, rebellion and being over-controlling. Theeither going aloof or by smothering those around
Loved Girlchild's energy can be overcome bythem with a spoiling mechanism. Either way, they
Unloved Girlchild, our inner victim-martyr complex.avoid further giving of themselves.
In 1990, psychologist Caroline Hanstke and BrianPeople who have a strong Boychild archetype are
Emmanuel Grey discovered that we filter lifego-getters in life. They are highly competitive and
through these four universal energies. Once youdo whatever it takes to reach their goal. When
can "read" these archetypes, you can changetheir archetype goes negative, they become
your circumstances and enjoy healthyovercompetitive, aggressive, and tend to run
relationships. It's like pressing the "reveal codes"over others.
on an old IBM computer. You tune into thePeople who have a strong Girlchild archetype go
underlying energy as to why people think, feel orwith the flow. They experience life through
behave the way they do. Then you learn toserendipity. They are highly creative, caring and
speak the same energetic language, so that yourintuitive. When their sensitivity is trampled,
relationship problems can fade away.however, the unloving side of Girlchild takes over.
Whether you are looking for marriage counselingThey become victim-martyrs and experience a
or relationship counseling, dating advice, customerlot of anxiety.
relationship management, parenting tips, angerEveryone uses their four inner family archetypes
management or spiritual healing, understanding andin different conscious, subconscious,
working with your archetypes is the first step tosuperconscious or unconscious combinations.
wholeness.These combinations reveal a lot about our
Your archetypes consciously, subconsciously andpersonality.
unconsciously either bless or block every area of