| There are many crossroads in lives. | | | | |
| | | | In the other example, the mother-in-law |
| When we find ourselves facing this, we | | | | expected the bride to be another "mother" to |
| realise why people around us seemed to | | | | her son and gave her weekly tasks to do for |
| change. | | | | her son. |
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| In fact, people don't change. Situation | | | | I think it is more like a maid than a mother. |
| changes. | | | | |
| | | | When the mom had difficulty getting her |
| Before getting married, my mother-in-law had | | | | messages across to her own son, she expected |
| that amount of expectation. And after our | | | | her daughter to do it for her and to teach |
| wedding, the expectation was raised by ten | | | | him a lesson or two. |
| times over. | | | | |
| | | | The consequence? |
| It was not easy to meet that kind of | | | | |
| expectation. | | | | Strained relationship within these two |
| | | | newly-wed just because of the |
| The only way to keep my sanity is to be who I | | | | "mothers-in-law" |
| am. | | | | |
| | | | I'm not saying all mother-in-laws are like |
| I'm not going to change for her. Neither do I | | | | this. |
| expect my wife to change for my mother. | | | | |
| | | | I'm sure mine will get better too. |
| I would want my wife to be who she has always | | | | |
| been. | | | | Some mother-in-laws give absolute privacy to |
| | | | the newly-wed and they come from the angles |
| After I shared my experience about my 45 | | | | of friends. |
| minutes lecture from my mother-in-law, some | | | | |
| readers emailed me, sharing with me about the | | | | They know to have a harmonious relationship |
| same fate after marriage. | | | | at home, these new-age mothers have to be the |
| | | | daughters-in-law's friends. |
| The mother-in-law of a bride was really picky | | | | |
| and fussy over everything she does and the | | | | However, such mothers-in-law are rare. And if |
| way she behaves in her house. | | | | you have one like this, better cherish her. |
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| The daughter-in-law was so uncomfortable and | | | | Share it with your female married friends and |
| pissed off that she locked herself in her | | | | many will awe in envy. |
| room all day. | | | | |