| There are many crossroads in lives. | | | | day. |
| When we find ourselves facing this, we realise | | | | In the other example, the mother-in-law expected |
| why people around us seemed to change. | | | | the bride to be another "mother" to her son and |
| In fact, people don't change. Situation changes. | | | | gave her weekly tasks to do for her son. |
| Before getting married, my mother-in-law had | | | | I think it is more like a maid than a mother. |
| that amount of expectation. And after our | | | | When the mom had difficulty getting her |
| wedding, the expectation was raised by ten times | | | | messages across to her own son, she expected |
| over. | | | | her daughter to do it for her and to teach him a |
| It was not easy to meet that kind of expectation. | | | | lesson or two. |
| The only way to keep my sanity is to be who I | | | | The consequence? |
| am. | | | | Strained relationship within these two newly-wed |
| I'm not going to change for her. Neither do I | | | | just because of the "mothers-in-law" |
| expect my wife to change for my mother. | | | | I'm not saying all mother-in-laws are like this. |
| I would want my wife to be who she has always | | | | I'm sure mine will get better too. |
| been. | | | | Some mother-in-laws give absolute privacy to the |
| After I shared my experience about my 45 | | | | newly-wed and they come from the angles of |
| minutes lecture from my mother-in-law, some | | | | friends. |
| readers emailed me, sharing with me about the | | | | They know to have a harmonious relationship at |
| same fate after marriage. | | | | home, these new-age mothers have to be the |
| The mother-in-law of a bride was really picky and | | | | daughters-in-law's friends. |
| fussy over everything she does and the way she | | | | However, such mothers-in-law are rare. And if |
| behaves in her house. | | | | you have one like this, better cherish her. |
| The daughter-in-law was so uncomfortable and | | | | Share it with your female married friends and |
| pissed off that she locked herself in her room all | | | | many will awe in envy. |