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How to Be Appropriately Pushy

One of the things that's often hard to knowopportunity as much as he could, but then was
is how and when to be pushy appropriately. Incompletely respectful and gracious. It is
these hardscrabble times, perfectly politealso evidence that a letter works, especially
people don't stand much of a chance ofwhen delivered under unique circumstances.
getting what they want. However, not enoughDesigner Michael Kors was a store clerk, he
can be said for making yourself known in asold Calvin Klein a ski jacket, and stuffed
decent and unobnoxious manner. The key is tohis design sketches into the sleeve as the
use your intuition and your brain, both atjacket was en route to delivery. A
the  same  time,  and pray for a little luck.documentary film director I know who needed a
quote from a famous director to help her get
When Lazaro Hernandez was a fashion studentgrants pulled a similar coup. She found out
at Parson's School of Design in New York, hewhere Woody Allen lived, then had a copy of
had a chance encounter in an airport withher latest film delivered to his door with a
Anna Wintour, editor in chief of Voguehandwritten note requesting a favorable
Magazine. In fact, she was getting on hiscomment.  He  obliged.
airplane. Lazaro wasn't so sure he had the
nerve to approach, but one hour into theEveryone has to start somewhere, even the
flight,  he  could  stand  it  no  longer.rich and famous. So if you can approach
politely, preferably through some other means
Lazaro wrote a humble note on an airsick bag,than the front office, your efforts will
which explained that he was a fashion studentprobably not be seen as pushy but as what one
who would soon be looking for an internship.does  to  get  a  break.
He noted that she probably got requests like
this all the time, but wondered if perhapsPart of the reason this works is the honesty
someone had given her a chance at theinvolved. You are telling them what you need
beginning of her career. He also wrote thatup front. So this is very different than
he knew she had the power to help him. Then,talking up a potential contact at a cocktail
trembling,  he  approached.party with the sole agenda of having them
look at your work, or hanging out a health
Lazaro stood before Ms. Wintour's seatedclub frequented by a certain star so you can
figure, and said her name. No answer. Headd them to your list of influential friends.
repeated her name several times. No answer.Those would be considered inappropriate
He even crossed the uncrossable boundary and'covert agenda' moves that are really looked
touched her arm. Still no reply. Finally, hedown  upon  by  the  rich  and  powerful.
left his plea under her martini glass and
crept back to his seat. Several months later,Too often we assume that the way to approach
he received a call from a major designeran industry or a leader is from the bottom,
who'd gotten Lazaro's letter from Ms. Wintourworming your way up through the ranks. A much
with instructions that it was not to bemore effective approach is just to go
ignored. A subsequent interview proved thatstraight to the top, where you very well may
he had talent, and Lazaro was hired for hisconnect with the person who can make
first  internship.everything happen for you. This is why
letters are such a good tool for approaching
Lazaro not only had great luck to get on anthese people. They can read it in their own
airplane with the most powerful woman in thetime, they're not too obtrusive, and if
fashion industry, he had the savvy to makewell-written and delivered in a subtle but
use of the opportunity. He was ready when hisattention-getting way, they can work wonders.
break came with a portfolio of samples he'd
worked hard on, making it the best it couldImportant people, just like the rest of us,
be. Then he did the most important thing ofdo not like to be used. On the other hand,
all: he sent Ms. Wintour a thank you note,most people do like to be helpful, and a
which prompted a fax from the woman herselfdirect  request  can  be amazingly effective.
saying  she  was  glad  it  all  worked  out.
©2004 Suzanne Falter-Barns. Reprint
This to me is a fine example of well-handledpermission available.
pushiness, in that Lazaro used the



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