| First we are pushed out from our mother's | | | | your comfort level with soar. You will be more |
| womb, then we are passed around from person | | | | secure conversing with others, whether you are |
| to person like a hot potato. Next we are | | | | at a work-related black tie event or meeting |
| subjected to going to some strange place with | | | | someone on a first date from your online service. |
| other strange youngsters, while Mommy and | | | | 4. Give Compliments. When you give other |
| Daddy go off to work. It just gets scarier after | | | | compliments, you are complimenting yourself. |
| that. So, after years of having it stripped away | | | | Look at the people around you, and pick up the |
| from us, how do we hang on to a little security in | | | | best qualities that they have to offer. Maybe they |
| an increasingly insecure world? Here are some | | | | have a warm smile, or they have graceful |
| ways that may offer a little inspiration: | | | | movements, or perhaps they have exquisite |
| 1. Learn to enjoy your own company. If your | | | | taste in clothing. When you begin to take the |
| blood pressure rises when you realize you are | | | | focus off of yourself and turn your attention to |
| going to be home alone, you really need to | | | | others, you will notice a dramatic rise in your |
| experience more evenings by yourself. Think back | | | | comfort level. And when you start noticing more |
| to a time when you were at your happiest. What | | | | and more positive attributes in your fellow |
| were you doing? Even if you were with a dear | | | | travelers, you will begin to notice more in yourself. |
| friend, that does not mean you cannot recreate | | | | Be genuine. People love to be complimented, but |
| the feeling you had. Watercolor, get a kid's | | | | they can tell when it is not sincere. There is no |
| coloring book and some crayons and get busy. | | | | need to over do it, just express your thought in a |
| Sing in your underwear, using the spatula as a | | | | light, off-handed way. They may be taken aback, |
| microphone. Have fun, when no one is watching, | | | | and they will begin to look at you differently. |
| and you will be more secure being yourself when | | | | When pure positive energy is exchanged in this |
| you are with others. | | | | way, amazing things will magically happen. |
| 2. Practice saying positive affirmations. First right | | | | 5. Write down your Goals. These could be work |
| them down. Here are a few examples: | | | | or personal. Start with one, and then move on to |
| I am confident in a state of not knowing. | | | | the next one. This should have nothing to do |
| The power of love allows me to trust my | | | | about the expectations of others. What are your |
| instincts above all. | | | | dreams? Maybe you have spent your whole life in |
| My inspirational contribution is a unique gift to the | | | | a job that you cannot stand. You have to know |
| Universe. | | | | that it is never too late to change careers. You |
| I am aware and open to all the spiritual healing life | | | | owe it to yourself, to dig deep, and be honest. Do |
| is bringing me. | | | | a little research about what it would take to get |
| Enlightenment is my birthright. | | | | there. Put these things on your to do list. Break |
| I am always connected to our inner source which | | | | down these steps so that they are achievable. |
| provides me with constant divine guidance. | | | | Mark each one off as you accomplish them. |
| Many times insecurity has its roots in negative | | | | Change happens incrementally. Persistence turns |
| messages, which were fed to us when we were | | | | change into transformation. |
| growing up. These are false messages. The | | | | The whole idea of security is a bit elusive. |
| uncluttered truth is you are a divine being. Practice | | | | Somewhere a long the way, we came to believe |
| writing and speaking affirmations that confirm this, | | | | that we need security. Security is good, to be |
| and you will be much closer to the freedom that | | | | without it is bad. Maybe, maybe not. Looked at |
| comes with living a fulfilling life. | | | | from another way, we could say there is nothing |
| 3. Take a public Speaking Class. Public speaking is | | | | wrong with feeling insecure. When we put our |
| known to be one of people's greatest fears. If | | | | selves in challenging situations, we set up a |
| this is true for you, this is a great exercise to try. | | | | foundation for us to reach another level of |
| Join a club that allows you to get your feet wet | | | | fulfillment. Once we move past the feeling of |
| speaking in front of an audience. The organization, | | | | insecurity it gives way to a feeling of |
| Toastmasters, provides a wonderful venue where | | | | contentment. So, do not beat yourself up if you |
| the members have the opportunity to present a | | | | are feeling insecure. |
| speech. The audience offers three positive | | | | Wake up to this new way of thinking: imagine |
| comments, and then one constructive comment. | | | | your feeling of insecurity as a gift. Accept it, open |
| This a creative way to learn something new in a | | | | it up, and examine it. Once you understand what |
| supportive atmosphere. | | | | you are holding, you can let it go. |
| Once you have this experience under your belt, | | | | |