| Has your mother recently died? Are you having | | | | your mother, but rather you will learn to enjoy |
| problems getting past the sadness? Are you | | | | the memories differently. The fun things you tell |
| constantly reminded of a time that you spent | | | | will actually feel fun, and the unfortunate things |
| with you mom? There are many tragedies that | | | | that happened will turn into lessons for your life. |
| we must endure in a lifetime. Of those losing your | | | | You will learn to use those years as a measuring |
| mother is one of the most difficult to get over. | | | | stick for where you are in your life. The day will |
| The bond between mother and child is very | | | | come, as you visit with younger generations and |
| strong. Whether you agreed, got along with, or | | | | friends, when you will tell the stories with more |
| fought regularly with your mother the bond that | | | | enthusiasm. |
| you share stifles the imagination. Many think this is | | | | It does no good to be hard on yourself. There is |
| simple genetics, but it's really a lot more. When | | | | no normal time that grief lasts. Everyone has to |
| your mother dies a small part of the child in you, | | | | go through it to some degree. If you feel |
| dies too. | | | | depression is setting in and your sleep habits are |
| Suddenly you look in the mirror and begin noticing | | | | changing see a doctor. If you find that you are |
| how you resemble your parent. Have you ever | | | | emotional or cranky around your mothers |
| thought about how much your eyes look like the | | | | birthday or date of death, realize that this is |
| photos of your loved one when they were your | | | | normal. Learn to take time to celebrate these |
| age? Do people tell you that you talk like your | | | | occasions. Look forward to them and bring out |
| mom, or you have her hair? Yes, genetics do play | | | | pictures and reminisce. |
| a role in the how we feel when they die, at times | | | | Everyone seems to have their own way of |
| you can't seem to run from it. Even when you | | | | dealing with their feelings. For some people |
| try to think of good times the two of you spent, | | | | working keeps their minds busy, for others |
| you may begin to cry. Are you wondering when | | | | cleaning and scrubbing gets out their frustrations. |
| the emotional ties will be cut and you can function | | | | While others prefer support groups. Time will |
| through an entire day without the sadness? | | | | make the grief easier to handle and you will get |
| There is no magic number to help you understand | | | | to the point of not thinking about your mother |
| when you will be able to tell a family story and | | | | every minute of each day. The time will come |
| not tear up. No one can tell you which Christmas | | | | when you will realize that you are feeling better |
| will be easier, or if your holiday will ever pass with | | | | and it's been a month since you last teared up. |
| ease of emotion. The reality is that for each of | | | | Learn to look for similarities in your personalities. |
| us the time when we can enjoy our past is | | | | Laugh when you see the resemblances in the |
| different. The important thing to know is that it | | | | mirror, and watch your reflection laugh back. |
| will get easier. As time passes you won't forget | | | | |