| Have you ever done something special for | | | | even if we believe we are doing it for the |
| another, because you wanted to, even though | | | | benefit of others. On a subconscious level, |
| it was something you would not normally do? | | | | we always do things for ourselves first, |
| It may have been for a friend, relative, | | | | because it is who we are. When we bring that |
| partner, or even a stranger. And after you | | | | knowingness to our conscious actions we will |
| did your good deed, did this person display | | | | always be in harmony with our true intent, |
| disappointed or maybe indifference in how or | | | | and it is to declare who we are! Give the |
| what you did for them? And after experiencing | | | | street person some change, not because he |
| their reaction, how did you react-were you | | | | asked you or because you feel guilty, but |
| angry, disappointed or indifferent? We have | | | | because you want to declare your abundance-it |
| all done that many times over the years. You | | | | is a sign of gratitude. It doesn't really |
| think you are doing something good, something | | | | matter what he is going to do with it-it's |
| beneficial for another, and then you do not | | | | none of your business. Give your spouse a |
| get the reaction you expected or were hoping | | | | gift you know she/he will like because you |
| for. There is a very good explanation for | | | | see yourself as one who spreads |
| your feelings of hurt, disappointment or | | | | happiness-declare yourself! Give your kids a |
| anger. And if this is a common experience for | | | | higher education, not because it is the thing |
| you and you keep getting the same feelings | | | | to do, or because you are pressured, but |
| afterwards, then you are probably doing these | | | | because you want more for them, which really |
| things for reasons that do not work for you. | | | | means you want more for yourself. It is a win |
| Most of us do things for others | | | | win situation and if you are in harmony with |
| consciously for reasons that do not work for | | | | spirit, you will never feel poorly because |
| us subconsciously. The result is a message (a | | | | they don't thank you. The reward, |
| feeling) from the subconscious to the | | | | blessing, or satisfaction in doing anything |
| conscious saying you did not get what you | | | | is because you are doing it for yourself and |
| wanted because you were not working in | | | | others will benefit, and it is the act |
| harmony with what the spirit wanted for you. | | | | itself, realized, that is a declaration of |
| The greatest gift a person can give to you | | | | who you are-it is the greatest gift. I |
| is an opportunity for you to express | | | | have written this article because recently in |
| yourself-the opportunity acted upon, declares | | | | my own life I have gone above and beyond the |
| in the moment who and what you are. It says | | | | call of duty and did things to help two |
| "I AM," this is me. Without those | | | | different people. Neither one of them liked |
| opportunities, you are in fact nothing except | | | | what I did for them and sent me emails to |
| a person who does not take those | | | | express their disappointment. Both of them |
| opportunities. You live in a relative world | | | | have been on my mind and have occupied too |
| and you declare who you are in every second | | | | much time and space. My ego was bruised by |
| of your life in relationship to others and | | | | their reactions. I have had to remind myself |
| your environment. Without them you can only | | | | that what I did was for me, because I really |
| experience yourself as nothing. If one is | | | | like to help out when I am asked, and if I |
| in harmony with spirit then one would give | | | | have the time and resources to do it. The |
| thanks to the person who was in need for | | | | reminders have helped and I feel better. I |
| allowing them the opportunity to express | | | | thought I would change how I would help |
| themselves. In some belief systems it is | | | | people in this particular situation, but |
| considered inappropriate to give thanks to | | | | after the reminder, I have changed my mind. I |
| the giver-say thank you. Appreciation is for | | | | got everything I wanted and I don't have to |
| the ego and it is OK to express it because | | | | feel poorly. From what seems to be a |
| you are truly appreciative, however, if it is | | | | negative experience has come many rewards. I |
| expected, many times you will be | | | | have not allowed their reactions to keep me |
| disappointed. If you think of yourself as | | | | from helping others. I have been reminded of |
| a good person who does things for others, | | | | how important it is to do things for myself |
| then you need the others in order to manifest | | | | first-to declare myself. Also, it was their |
| this thought. Through the law of attraction | | | | reactions to my help which inspired this |
| those people will be drawn to you and you | | | | article, which will inspire others who read |
| will be able to do something for them. If you | | | | it. So indirectly they have given back also. |
| truly understand the reason for your giving, | | | | I have been the vehicle to turn their |
| as a declaration of who you are-you can never | | | | negative experience into something even more |
| be hurt by the reactions of others. In | | | | positive for myself and others. If you |
| everything you do, you need to do it for | | | | have ever done something special for someone |
| yourself, not for another. Anything you do | | | | else and not received what you expected-look |
| must be selfish oriented. Selflessness often | | | | a little deeper, and you will come out on |
| brings negative emotions with it. If you are | | | | top. Expectations lead to disappointment, |
| selfish in your endeavors, you will always be | | | | purpose leads to love and understanding. |
| in harmony with spirit, and no one can hurt | | | | Understand and love the one who is purpose |
| you. And by considering yourself first, | | | | driven, the one who is reading this now. |
| others will benefit greatly by it. In western | | | | |
| culture we most often give for poor reasons, | | | | More articles from this pro: E. |