Bitterness Leads You Away From Self

Have you ever done something special forgive for poor reasons, even if we believe we are
another, because you wanted to, even though itdoing it for the benefit of others. On a
was something you would not normally do? Itsubconscious level, we always do things for
may have been for a friend, relative, partner, orourselves first, because it is who we are. When
even a stranger. And after you did your goodwe bring that knowingness to our conscious
deed, did this person display disappointed oractions we will always be in harmony with our
maybe indifference in how or what you did fortrue intent, and it is to declare who we are! Give
them? And after experiencing their reaction, howthe street person some change, not because he
did you react-were you angry, disappointed orasked you or because you feel guilty, but
indifferent? We have all done that many timesbecause you want to declare your abundance-it is
over the years. You think you are doinga sign of gratitude. It doesn't really matter what
something good, something beneficial for another,he is going to do with it-it's none of your business.
and then you do not get the reaction youGive your spouse a gift you know she/he will like
expected or were hoping for. There is a verybecause you see yourself as one who spreads
good explanation for your feelings of hurt,happiness-declare yourself! Give your kids a higher
disappointment or anger. And if this is a commoneducation, not because it is the thing to do, or
experience for you and you keep getting thebecause you are pressured, but because you
same feelings afterwards, then you are probablywant more for them, which really means you
doing these things for reasons that do not workwant more for yourself. It is a win/win situation
for you. Most of us do things for othersand if you are in harmony with spirit, you will
consciously for reasons that do not work for usnever feel poorly because they don't thank you.
subconsciously. The result is a message (a feeling)The reward, blessing, or satisfaction in doing
from the subconscious to the conscious sayinganything is because you are doing it for yourself
you did not get what you wanted because youand others will benefit, and it is the act itself,
were not working in harmony with what the spiritrealized, that is a declaration of who you are-it is
wanted for you. The greatest gift a person canthe greatest gift. I have written this article
give to you is an opportunity for you to expressbecause recently in my own life I have gone
yourself-the opportunity acted upon, declares inabove and beyond the call of duty and did things
the moment who and what you are. It says "Ito help two different people. Neither one of them
AM," this is me. Without those opportunities, youliked what I did for them and sent me emails to
are in fact nothing except a person who does notexpress their disappointment. Both of them have
take those opportunities. You live in a relativebeen on my mind and have occupied too much
world and you declare who you are in everytime and space. My ego was bruised by their
second of your life in relationship to others andreactions. I have had to remind myself that what
your environment. Without them you can onlyI did was for me, because I really like to help out
experience yourself as nothing. If one is inwhen I am asked, and if I have the time and
harmony with spirit then one would give thanks toresources to do it. The reminders have helped
the person who was in need for allowing themand I feel better. I thought I would change how I
the opportunity to express themselves. In somewould help people in this particular situation, but
belief systems it is considered inappropriate toafter the reminder, I have changed my mind. I
give thanks to the giver-say thank you.got everything I wanted and I don't have to feel
Appreciation is for the ego and it is OK topoorly. From what seems to be a negative
express it because you are truly appreciative,experience has come many rewards. I have not
however, if it is expected, many times you will beallowed their reactions to keep me from helping
disappointed. If you think of yourself as a goodothers. I have been reminded of how important it
person who does things for others, then youis to do things for myself first-to declare myself.
need the others in order to manifest this thought.Also, it was their reactions to my help which
Through the law of attraction those people will beinspired this article, which will inspire others who
drawn to you and you will be able to doread it. So indirectly they have given back also. I
something for them. If you truly understand thehave been the vehicle to turn their negative
reason for your giving, as a declaration of whoexperience into something even more positive for
you are-you can never be hurt by the reactionsmyself and others. If you have ever done
of others. In everything you do, you need to do itsomething special for someone else and not
for yourself, not for another. Anything you doreceived what you expected-look a little deeper,
must be selfish oriented. Selflessness often bringsand you will come out on top. Expectations lead
negative emotions with it. If you are selfish into disappointment, purpose leads to love and
your endeavors, you will always be in harmonyunderstanding. Understand and love the one who
with spirit, and no one can hurt you. And byis purpose driven, the one who is reading this
considering yourself first, others will benefitnow.
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